Most of us will confess to having fallen in love at least once in this life. We all have different meanings to what love is and often times, we make the mistake of confusing lust for love. What i really want to talk about though is, how does love feel like?
I could probably ask a dozen people and get different answers to this question because people believe that is happens differently for everyone but, i am sure that there are similarities in there somewhere that makes the whole love concept believable right?
Lets take for example what happens when we meet someone we are attracted to. You get the whole sweaty palms thing. Heats starts to spread through your body and you feel suddenly hot. your pupils become dilated and you just feel an invincible pull towards that person. Most often, the person you are feeling this attraction to will have similar symptoms to you and then when your eyes meet, you hear the whole violin and slow motion thingy! (yeah right!). That is one theory.
What about the bit where you get that electricity shock thing going when the person you feel this pull toward touches you? and you get those goosebumps that make you shiver even though its not cold and you are in fact feeling very warm? Or the burn that starts in your stomach and works its way down to your other parts and you get the feeling that only that one person can soothe?
These are all legitimate chemical reactions that we have when we meet someone that appeals to us in a certain way that has nothing to do with friendship. But, can we honestly say that is what love feels like? It surely is more than a chemical reaction and after much research on this subject, (believe me, i have done a lot of research thanks to google and some men I'd sooner forget about)! i have come to the conclusion that, it has more to it than just chemistry.
Love feels like you are bound to a person. As in, you cannot function properly if they are not around you. You have to have some amount of contact with the other person at all times if you are together. Like holding hands for example. Most people these days do that to mark their territory but, the truth is, when you have that intense connection with someone, not being able to touch them will feel painful. (for reals!). That person has got some sort of power over you but the best thing about it is, you have that same amount of power over them as well and you will literally put their needs before yours. Whatever makes them happy is what you will do. Even if it will hurt you in the end. You think about them all the time and when they touch you or kiss you, you get butterflies in your stomach. You go around acting like you are on cloud nine or some high grade weed because, it just rocks like that.
I believe that, there is only one person like that for everyone and once you have experience it, your life will be completely altered and nothing can ever compare. Even if it does not work out for the two of you, you will never have that intense feeling about someone else. That's probably why they say there is someone for everyone and not there is some people for everyone. And, if you truly love someone and they break your heart, it physically hurts! (scientific fact)!!
because life is most times unfair, you don't get theses feelings that have been described above returned all the time but, if you do and it's lost, what ever you go in for again will be second best. My advise to myself is simple really, i am waiting for the butterflies and goosebumps because, i haven't felt them yet.
